Figures me knowing more about the world than you makes me white. Okay.
a white girl calling a black girl “white girl” as an insult
all of my wut
This is how you handle getting your privileged called out.
Not “reverse racism!” Not “heterophobe!” and all those other dynamics that don’t exist. Just recognition. Recognition of privilege (and hopefully continuous self-checking)
^ THISNice to know that bullying is only a problem and only leaves psychological scarring if you’re not part of a minority. Wouldn’t be surprised if the black lesbian herself was a bully in high school, and used her race and sexuality as an excuse. Reminds me of all the teachers that made excuses and condoned my the ringleader of my friend’s gang of bullies, because the ringleader was a rich Asian girl, and my friend was a working class girl who got a scholarship into an extremely wealthy private school, where students from poorer backgrounds were often bullied for being unable to afford new uniforms or chauffered cars or expensive shoes.
I am not the one to cry “misogyny”* every time a person does something I disagree with, but something came to my attention and I wanted to discuss it.
Many people online critique girls/women who want a thigh gap. Weirdly enough, most of the people who are against it critique it are saying that it’s unappealing to men. I thought that women could do whatever they want with their bodies? I thought that being attractive/unattractive to someone shouldn’t be your main goal while changing yourself (though I admit, of course it does play its part)?
cases in question:
Here he’s saying that girls with a thigh gap have no ass (obviously untrue, since having a thigh gap often means having wider hips), that you’re ungrateful for wanting something the starving african kids want (can I not go into how ridiculous this one is?), he’s also saying that this is a thing that the media/the society made women want and made women be insecure about (so basically women are incapable of making decisions re: their body on their own, nice).
This is the kind of responses he got. I think he made this video with the same intention that some guys make “fat girls are beautiful” videos. To make insecure girls who want something but can’t achieve it feel better about themselves. He decided to do that, of course, by shaming the “other” (the envied) group.
What would be rational and not a dick move is saying “Yes, it is a trend. Yes, some people find it attractive. Some don’t. Just like with anything other physical attribute (tattoos, bright hair colors, styles of makeup/clothing, etc). If you want to have it, work for it, it’s possible. If it makes you feel more attractive, you get more confident and therefore attractive. However, not everyone can have it and some people can’t have it unless they become underweight, which is unhealthy. Please keep that in mind and good luck achieving your goals.”
In this ABC news video they equate thigh gaps with pro-ana movement, which is wrong. A thigh gap is just an attribute, it isn’t the “heart” of the movement. To me, it’s the same as equating tattoos on a girl with her being into drugs and heavy metal music. I hope that made sense and I hope now you understand why I find it silly.
This girl is saying how if you want a thigh gap, you have your priorities all wrong. She then proceeds to say how she wants all the girls who post pictures of their skinny legs on instagram to shut up, which leads me to believe that it is simple jealousy.
In her video, she makes a joke insinuating how boys don’t care about all that stuff. First of all, perhaps she would want to speak to the maker of our #1 video here, since he tells us that men indeed do care and that they hate it. Second of all, again, might come as a shock to some, but not everything a woman does is aimed towards being liked by men and it’s kind of ridiculous to think that saying that a guy disapproves of something is gonna make a girl stop wanting it. “Guys don’t care if a girl has clean hair”. “Oh, that means I can stop washing it! Yay!” Do you see how ridiculous this is?
What if I said “You want to have more muscles? Duuuude.. your priorities are ALL wrong!!!!!!” Do you see how ridiculous that is? Again, people are free to do whatever they want to/with their bodies and making your body look better (or what you perceive as “better”) shouldn’t be shamed.
Girl insinuating that if you strive to be beautiful, you can’t be smart. I don’t even want to go into this.
So, what can we make out of all this? Where does all the hate come from?
I believe most of the hate from girls comes from a place of insecurity and jealousy. Reminds me of fat girls saying “but real men love curves, only dogs go for bones” and trying to make themselves feel better.
For men, I think they’re trying to “score some points” with the girls ironically by being
misogynistic sexist. Most of their critique boils down to “girls are stupid for wanting a thigh gap, because boys don’t like/don’t care for thigh gaps”. So that means that a woman can’t want something if a man doesn’t approve of it. That means a girl is stupid for wanting something for herself. I can’t believe anybody is siding with these jerks.
*again, I don’t use the word “misogyny” lightly, and I know that women face real misogyny, so I am not sure at all if it’s applicable in this context. please let me know what you think?
edit: yeah I don’t think I should’ve said it, this is not misogyny
This is awesome. Look at the look on the guy’s face… he can’t even bring himself to look at those “subhuman” LGBT*QIA people. Fucking asshole. It’s fucking disgusting what it happening in Russia at the moment and I can only commend these brave activists for risking their own safety by protesting the injustices that are happening parralel to these Olympics!
THIS JUST IN!!! MAN OPPRESSES HOMOSEXUALS FOR NOT LOOKING AT FLAG AND GOING ON WITH HIS DAY! NEWS AT 11.
THIS ISN’T EVEN IN RUSSIA
HES OPPRESSING THEIR RIGHT TO BE OPPRESSED!!!
Good question! I think of myself as a realist, but honestly I’m probably more of a pessimist. It is not something I do on purpose. Expecting the worst always makes you feel happy and grateful when it doesn’t come true, but at the same time your thoughts and behaviours can become a self-fulfilling prophesy (which is something that often happens to me).
if anyone wants to /ask me anything.. ya know.. that’s totally fine.. just a friendly reminder… no pressure………
Just saw the penis of someone I follow and started laughing and said something to my boyfriend along the lines of “Do you think he knows he has a deformed penis? Has he never seen a penis before?” And my boyfriend goes “That’s not deformed, it’s uncircumcized.”
Okay, initial reactions: I have spent most of my teen years comprehending the foreskin to literally be like a spare flap that flipped over the head of the penis like a fucking cap. Now I know that is not the case HOLY FUCKING FOOTBALL DICK. THAT SHIT IS UGLY. GET THAT SHIT OUT OF HERE. I literally now understand why that time that random kid I was just starting to date had such an ugly dick, and I am glad I didn;t forward t to anyone saying “Wow this kid’s dick is a monstrosity, let’s laugh at it.”
Let’s have a moment of silence for all the ugly fucking dicks out there. Should’ve snipped it when you had the chance.
Wow, you’re a shallow bitch.
Did you know that 80% of men worldwide aren’t circumcised? Cut dicks are mutilated, and the minority.
There’s I suppose a matter of familiarity with this. Those living in places where circumcision is the norm are probably more inclined to find circumcised penises more attractive because they are more comfortable with it largely because it is expected.
Personally I find uncut far more aesthetically pleasing, probably largely due to the fact that it is what I am familiar with. (Also the foreskin is fun to play with and there’s nothing quite like running your tongue underneath the skin :D)
That being said, personal preference on the appearance of a penis should never ever be used as an excuse for performing a medically unnecessary procedure.Please do not forget that OP.
I don’t like shaming people for things they can’t change… what’s the point? I can understand fat shaming/laziness shaming/arrogance shaming etc, but being mean to someone because of something they can’t change? Low. Dude. That’s so low.
I like intact penises. To me, it’s, like… exciting. Dunno, difficult to explain. I don’t really mind if it’s circumcised, because if it got to the point where I’m seeing a guy’s penis, I’m really excited and I want to do all kinds of fun things with the guy… passing judgements is the last thing on my mind, what I focus on is what’s happening in the moment. I just can’t wrap my head around the OP’s way of thinking.
I have a few copies of “Playboy” from the 1970s stashed away somewhere. One of them has a letter where a guy writes in saying, “I met this really gorgeous, sweet woman, and we were planning to get married, but she sat me down yesterday and told me that she had a sex change before she met me. Mr. Hefner, should I marry someone who used to be a man?” and the response was, “So she had a sex change, big whoop. Would you be asking this question if she’d made any other change in her life before she met you? You love the woman she is now, and that’s all that should matter. If you want kids you can adopt or something.”
I feel so conflicted right now
Do you guys SERIOUSLY not know that Hugh Hefner is super respectful of women and doesn’t play around with peoples misogynistic bullshit?
just because you want to be surrounded by hot ladies 24/7 doesn’t mean you’re a douchebag
not being a douchebag is the best way to be surrounded by hot ladies 24/7
Should also be noted, from watching The Girls Next Door, the Playmates decide on everything they do. All photoshoots and all the spreads in the magazines and calendars are their ideas and their doing. Hef is only there to give his stamp of approval.
None of those girls do things they don’t want to do, and he’s supportive of whatever.
i actually love this man
What the World Eats
These amazing portraits feature pictures of families from different countries with a week’s worth of food purchases. The photos, from the book Hungry Planet: What the World Eats by Peter Menzel and Faith D’Aluision, reveal a stark contrast between cultures and expose the proliferation of processed foods in the western diet and in the diets of many developing countries. Some people have more to eat and, too often, eat more nutritionally questionable food. And their health suffers. It’s no wonder that we are seeing an increase in diseases related to diet & lifestyle choices. We also learn that diet is determined largely by uncontrollable forces like poverty, conflict and globalization.
- United States
- Great Britain
"Very important. General rule for English speakers - if you don’t do it in the human context, don’t do it in the nonhuman context.
Just make a little effort to say “she or he” or “her or him” if you don’t know the sex. It’s a little effort with a very important social message.
Nonhuman animals are *persons*, not *things*. Therefore, we should refer to a nonhuman animal as a “she” or “he,” never as an “it.””