miltus

Patriarchy is to feminism what parents are to children. They see society as a whole as being oppressive and they don’t understand why it is the way it is and what purpose it serves. When they are told no they become upset, when they are told they are misbehaving they become angered, and when they are told they are wrong they become indignant. These reactions are no different than a child that is being scolded. At the time the child doesn’t understand why there is a curfew, why they have chores, why mom and dad won’t let them go to another state to that kick-ass concert to get high and fuck their boyfriend. But when they get older they realize that mom and dad weren’t trying to oppress them but instead were trying to protect them; to create a safe environment for them to grow up in until they were really ready to make decisions on their own without a guiding hand. There was no malicious intent, no underlying hatred or mistrust just honest, loving concern.

The parallels are pretty apparent when you view it as such. Society tells a feminist “be careful, minimize your risk, protect yourself and don’t walk down a dark alley if you can avoid it.” The feminist in turn says “How dare you support rape culture. Don’t tell me to be careful, tell rapists not to rape.” What they fail to realize is that society isn’t saying be careful because it supports rape culture it is saying be careful because it doesn’t want one of its children to get hurt if they can avoid it. In the same way it would tell a rich man “be careful, minimize your risk, protect yourself and don’t go walking around Detroit at midnight with a bag of money in your hand.” The difference here is where the feminist would get angry and say fuck off the rich man would say “Holy shit, that’s a good idea. I don’t want to get robbed. Thanks for the advice.”

From the modern feminist perspective there of course is more to it. They give society a sex, class it as male, and say that all power is located solely in the hands of men. They then go on to say that men, by default, hate women and only see them as a hole to fuck and therefore will always seek to undermine their freedoms and ability to express themselves. But I can’t help but wonder how is it that in a patriarchy, a true patriarchy as defined by a modern feminist, feminism itself could survive. Were there Jewish organizations marching down the streets of Berlin with posters saying “Fuck Hitler, Fuck Nazis, No gas for us!” during the 30s? Were there capitalists marching down the streets of Moscow with signs saying “Communism is for fags, Stalin is a cunt” during the 50s?

Their theory of patriarchy would make sense only if they were oppressed to the point where they couldn’t express that theory in the first place. Since I can hear them bitching that in and of itself tells me more than anything else that they are wrong.

-internetaristocrat 

she looks so elegant and beautiful, even when she’s eating carbs

she looks so elegant and beautiful, even when she’s eating carbs

motivationforfitness:

r-dart:

My Dad isn’t a bad person, he’s just… old fashioned.

This is so much the outlook by many men on a woman’s hormonal fluctuation. As if there is no control. No matter what, women cannot have control of their bodies.

B-but… but you do feel different when you’re on your period. Nobody’s saying that women can’t control their bodies, what the guy in this comic is saying that it’s more difficult for women to control their emotions at a certain time of the month… 

Like… I’ve met so many girls who use their periods as excuses (to get out of P.E., to get special treatment from people, etc) and yet it’s the men who don’t understand anything about the biology and assume stupid things?

You can’t have it both ways, sweet pea. Either you control yourself 100% and your period has nothing to do with your hormones (which is not true!) or you get moody and it can be tough sometimes. 

Also, I like the comic, just not the above comment.

buttpoems:

a drawing about optimism

buttpoems:

a drawing about optimism

And then you realize that Forrest knows about his condition all along and your heart breaks a little.

africant:

charmancler:

is that twilight

yes. yes it is.

Oh, look. Precious white girl can't logic enough to understand subcategories within gender identities. Bye

archmasterjazzy:

Figures me knowing more about the world than you makes me white. Okay. 

a white girl calling a black girl “white girl” as an insult

all of my wut

poppypicklesticks:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

be-blackstar:

This is how you handle getting your privileged called out. 

Not “reverse racism!” Not “heterophobe!” and all those other dynamics that don’t exist. Just recognition. Recognition of privilege (and hopefully continuous self-checking) 

^ THIS

Nice to know that bullying is only a problem and only leaves psychological scarring if you’re not part of a minority. Wouldn’t be surprised if the black lesbian herself was a bully in high school, and used her race and sexuality as an excuse. Reminds me of all the teachers that made excuses and condoned my the ringleader of my friend’s gang of bullies, because the ringleader was a rich Asian girl, and my friend was a working class girl who got a scholarship into an extremely wealthy private school, where students from poorer backgrounds were often bullied for being unable to afford new uniforms or chauffered cars or expensive shoes.
long post! discussing body image/thigh gaps

I am not the one to cry “misogyny”* every time a person does something I disagree with, but something came to my attention and I wanted to discuss it. 

Many people online critique girls/women who want a thigh gap. Weirdly enough, most of the people who are against it critique it are saying that it’s unappealing to men. I thought that women could do whatever they want with their bodies? I thought that being attractive/unattractive to someone shouldn’t be your main goal while changing yourself (though I admit, of course it does play its part)?

cases in question:

1.

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Here he’s saying that girls with a thigh gap have no ass (obviously untrue, since having a thigh gap often means having wider hips), that you’re ungrateful for wanting something the starving african kids want (can I not go into how ridiculous this one is?), he’s also saying that this is a thing that the media/the society made women want and made women be insecure about (so basically women are incapable of making decisions re: their body on their own, nice).

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This is the kind of responses he got. I think he made this video with the same intention that some guys make “fat girls are beautiful” videos. To make insecure girls who want something but can’t achieve it feel better about themselves. He decided to do that, of course, by shaming the “other” (the envied) group. 

What would be rational and not a dick move is saying “Yes, it is a trend. Yes, some people find it attractive. Some don’t. Just like with anything other physical attribute (tattoos, bright hair colors, styles of makeup/clothing, etc). If you want to have it, work for it, it’s possible. If it makes you feel more attractive, you get more confident and therefore attractive. However, not everyone can have it and some people can’t have it unless they become underweight, which is unhealthy. Please keep that in mind and good luck achieving your goals.”

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In this ABC news video they equate thigh gaps with pro-ana movement, which is wrong. A thigh gap is just an attribute, it isn’t the “heart” of the movement. To me, it’s the same as equating tattoos on a girl with her being into drugs and heavy metal music. I hope that made sense and I hope now you understand why I find it silly.

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This girl is saying how if you want a thigh gap, you have your priorities all wrong. She then proceeds to say how she wants all the girls who post pictures of their skinny legs on instagram to shut up, which leads me to believe that it is simple jealousy.

In her video, she makes a joke insinuating how boys don’t care about all that stuff. First of all, perhaps she would want to speak to the maker of our #1 video here, since he tells us that men indeed do care and that they hate it. Second of all, again, might come as a shock to some, but not everything a woman does is aimed towards being liked by men and it’s kind of ridiculous to think that saying that a guy disapproves of something is gonna make a girl stop wanting it. “Guys don’t care if a girl has clean hair”. “Oh, that means I can stop washing it! Yay!” Do you see how ridiculous this is?

What if I said “You want to have more muscles? Duuuude.. your priorities are ALL wrong!!!!!!” Do you see how ridiculous that is? Again, people are free to do whatever they want to/with their bodies and making your body look better (or what you perceive as “better”) shouldn’t be shamed. 

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Girl insinuating that if you strive to be beautiful, you can’t be smart. I don’t even want to go into this.

So, what can we make out of all this? Where does all the hate come from?

I believe most of the hate from girls comes from a place of insecurity and jealousy. Reminds me of fat girls saying “but real men love curves, only dogs go for bones” and trying to make themselves feel better. 

For men, I think they’re trying to “score some points” with the girls ironically by being misogynistic sexist. Most of their critique boils down to “girls are stupid for wanting a thigh gap, because boys don’t like/don’t care for thigh gaps”. So that means that a woman can’t want something if a man doesn’t approve of it. That means a girl is stupid for wanting something for herself. I can’t believe anybody is siding with these jerks.

*again, I don’t use the word “misogyny” lightly, and I know that women face real misogyny, so I am not sure at all if it’s applicable in this context. please let me know what you think?

edit: yeah I don’t think I should’ve said it, this is not misogyny

this-is-cthulhu-privilege:

tramadolmuncha:

afkdogisonfire:

ciscrimes:

This is awesome. Look at the look on the guy’s face… he can’t even bring himself to look at those “subhuman” LGBT*QIA people. Fucking asshole. It’s fucking disgusting what it happening in Russia at the moment and I can only commend these brave activists for risking their own safety by protesting the injustices that are happening parralel to these Olympics!

THIS JUST IN!!! MAN OPPRESSES HOMOSEXUALS FOR NOT LOOKING AT FLAG AND GOING ON WITH HIS DAY! NEWS AT 11.

THIS ISN’T EVEN IN RUSSIA

HES OPPRESSING THEIR RIGHT TO BE OPPRESSED!!!

this-is-cthulhu-privilege:

tramadolmuncha:

afkdogisonfire:

ciscrimes:

This is awesome. Look at the look on the guy’s face… he can’t even bring himself to look at those “subhuman” LGBT*QIA people. Fucking asshole. It’s fucking disgusting what it happening in Russia at the moment and I can only commend these brave activists for risking their own safety by protesting the injustices that are happening parralel to these Olympics!

THIS JUST IN!!! MAN OPPRESSES HOMOSEXUALS FOR NOT LOOKING AT FLAG AND GOING ON WITH HIS DAY! NEWS AT 11.

THIS ISN’T EVEN IN RUSSIA

HES OPPRESSING THEIR RIGHT TO BE OPPRESSED!!!